It’s a tough but undeniable fact – often brought home as you arrange pet insurance – that your pet will not live forever.
Those without animals in their lives may not understand the depth of grief that owners can feel when they lose a beloved companion – and even animal lovers themselves might be surprised by how bereft they often feel in such circumstances. As with the death of a close relative, you should not try to forget it, but should allow yourself due time in which to mourn.
Realising when it is time to let go.
Although some of us are unfortunate enough to lose friends in an accident or sudden occurrence, others will be faced with making the difficult decision as to when it is time to euthanise a sick or elderly animal.You are quite likely at this time to want your friend to remain with you and consequently delay the inevitable for as long as you can. Such a thought is understandable, but it’s often more compassionate to permit pet health care experts to end your pet’s life painlessly and with dignity.There will be occasions when a vet knows that it’s more humane to end a pet’s life than to allow it to continue to live in pain. If this is the case for your pet, you may find that your dog insurance policy can offer you some financial compensation. You can make the otherwise meaningless sum useful by donating it to a favourite animal welfare charity or using it to create your own pet memorial.
Dealing with the pain.
According to many, mourning requires five stages. These five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Getting through these stages may take you a long time or you could just go on repeating them time and time again. However, allowing yourself to feel them is an important part of healing. Taking time to grieve, whether this is done alone or talking to friends and family, is vital. It may be that your local vet can put you in touch with a support group for such emotional stress. If it is getting difficult to cope with your sorrow, it might even be worth visiting a therapist. Never forget that the loss of a pet can be extremely distressing.
How to remember.
Once the initial pain has receded a bit, it might be helpful for you to come up with some ideas to remember your furry friend. A small ceremony or quiet moment on the anniversary of their death could be one thought. Other ideas include displaying a framed picture of them in a special place, keeping their most intimate bedding and toys, and even undergoing a commemorative tattoo.
Animal anguish.
Any other pets left in the house may also show signs of grief. The remaining pets will often display normal patterns of grieving behaviour such as looking for their missing companion, not wanting to eat much and becoming extra clingy. However, if it seems to be seriously affecting their health, discuss the problem with a vet, who will be able to advise on a course of action.
Moving on.
Although another animal will never replace your pet, some of us may like the idea of eventually having another creature companion. However, if you feel unable to do so, why not try volunteering for a pet health care centre? By doing this you can enjoy the company of other animals without having to experience the grief of losing your own pet.